I Help Women like You Show up the Way You Want
Everything you do and everything you say sends a message. Most of the time you are not sure what that message is. With my help, you get clear on the message, clear on your commitments and clear on who you are in the world. Then we set you up with the practices you need to Align Your Life With Your Commitments.
After thirty years as a dentist, I finally got my real gift: I make people smile on the inside, and bring that smile out.
I listen better than you've ever been listened to before. We get to your core commitments, and I help you see the conversations you have with yourself that hold you back.
I make sure that you don't listen to “that” voice inside your head, but instead that you pursue what is important to you.
Workshops for Professional Women
I work with organizations to empower women to attain their highest potential. You can choose from the topics listed below or I'll generate a custom program that suits your organization's purposes.
People start putting you in a box from their first sight of you. You want your first impression to send the right message, your message, your commitment, what's important to you.
“Thanks to Sharleen, before I go into a meeting, I remind myself who I am. I can now make sure the best of me shows up. I'm saying what's important, what I want to, and I am making the difference I want.”
My three step exercise (perfect for a lunch program) helps you write your “Elevator Speech,” the short introduction that grabs people so you can engage. It also helps you to see the value you bring to the world and how to share that to generate results.
Getting Your Own Value
Men and women do show up differently in the world. To get ahead, women should take some time to understand the differences so they can effectively communicate their value, so they can make the contributions they want, and gain the jobs and conditions that serve them on the job.
Getting How You Show Up
We all have an idea about how other people see us. How many of us have actually checked in to make sure that our value and commitments get across? With a few simple exercises, you will get a handle on how you show up in the world.
Relating Across Cultures
This could be the study of a lifetime, but really boils down to a handful of principals, the main being “Do not do that which might be offensive to the person you are with.”
Too often however, we don't get what that is. We must understand the expectations of those we are relating to. Again it comes down to my basic checklist, and a handful of no-fail rules, so that you avoid offending the people you are with.
Maybe you have an event coming up. Maybe you'd like some ice-breakers. Maybe there's something particular you want to see in your organization.
My mission is to take care of you. Let me know what you need, and I'll see what I can do. And sometimes I get that that's not me. If it's not, I'll tell you, and do what I can to put you in touch with the people who will provide what you need.
Personal Services: Work with Women in Transition
I also work with women one-to-one. Particularly, I focus on women undergoing changes in their lives and looking to reinvent themselves, or just getting back to what is important.
You've completed one phase, maybe it's the kids finally getting out of the house, maybe it's the end of a marriage. Maybe you are just tired about how it is.
In Israel there is an expression “ככה זה” (that's how it is). When we say that, we lose all power. Who says “that's how it is?” It doesn't have to be you. I won't lot you get caught in your disgustiong story about how things are.
You have a lot more power than you can ever imagine. We'll help you tap it to create the life you want. It's that simple.
Creating the Life You Want
(the Life Clarity Call)
Do you even know the life you want? Too many of us started down a road because it was suggested or encouraged, or because it runs the family. In New York, it was de rigueur for an educated Jew to be a doctor or lawyer, or both. Between my brother, my sister and I, we have four doctorates.
For some, it was because XYZ was popular the year we started college, or because we'd done something similar. Or our mom said it's the hot career that will make you successful, and who wants to argue with mom. Or it's what's available to a young mother. Or personnel just told us that this is the best fit for us.
It's gotten us where we are, and that's okay. Sometimes though we don't really like where we ended up.
I takes you through a series of questions to get clear on your own values and commitments. We create Your Plan. Then we put that plan to life. I hold your hand as you start to walk that path. And I keep the bogeymen away until you are ready to run on your own.
I also uses this call to see if we are compatible. If I see a match, I may invite you to coach with me, or we can start with one of my other personal services. If not, I will be happy to point you in the right direction.
Now You Know What You Want, It's Time to Align Your Life
While there are a lot of places to start, I love working from the outside in.
As a dentist, there was a certain experience, an “Aha” moment, when I would give someone a smile she hadn't had in years, when all of a sudden she didn't need to cover her mouth any more or be embarrassed. These women would become human and alive again.
I am committed to you looking in the mirror, and having that moment. My work is not complete until you are consistently surprised and delighted by the person who looks back at you.
First impressions are incredibly sticky. Aligning your appearance with your commitment is a great place to start when you are reinventing yourself, but it's not the only place. With that in mind, these are my personal offerings.
The Closet Review
The Germans have a saying “Kleider machen Leute,” the “clothes make the person.” We want to make sure that you are presenting the person you say you are:
- We identify your body type, and the best cut of clothes for you.
- We figure out your best colors, and how to put them together.
- We go through your closet.
- You learn how to use what you have to show up how you want.
- We put together outfits to highlight your assets, and minimize those areas you don't want to show off.
- I make suggestions to complete your wardrobe so you have what you need for any occasion (this is usually a lot simpler than most women imagine).
And the important thing is, I make this easy. I know we have lives to live that have nothing to do with our closets. What you get are the few core principals so you can effortly put yourself together each day.
Sometimes you don't want to go it alone. I can go with you to create your best look.
We can do this with you locally, or we can travel (London/Paris/Prague/Milan/New York, I say there're fine any time of year).
Manners and Expectations
This could be the study of a lifetime, but really boils down to a handful of principals, the main being “Do not do that which might be offensive to those you are with."
We take ownership of how you show up. You learn how to relate powerfully when you are there. I've got a checklist, and a handful of no-fail rules, so that you will have the results you want.
That you learned to ride a bicycle doesn't mean you're going to ride the Tour de France, but you could do the Sovev Turki Tel Aviv with a little bit of training.
I take on select individuals committed to taking the coaching to have the life You want.
Personal coaching consists of one call at the same time every week (three out of four, or four out of five of that weekday during the month). We'll look at your plan; We'll look at where you won; We'll look at where you stopped; We'll generate the practices that will keep You on track to Having the Life You Want.
Then, You'll go out and implement. But You won't be alone. You may check in during the course of the week, and are welcome to my support before you go into a meeting, or on a date, or step up on the stage.
To help you start off your new year with a bang, I will take 90% off the regular consultation fee until October 10. (Use coupon code NEWYEAR90).